High expectations

I am going to take a small break from the devotional to talk to you about expectations. Have you ever had high expectations of something? Did you plan something down to the last detail and expect it to turn out exactly like you planned? Does it ever meet those expectations?

I am learning a lot about expectations with having a child. My sister and I recently adventured to our favorite city to shop at our favorite mall. It was the first time I took Remy on an hour and a half car ride and I figured it would be a good experiment. She has two children; a boy who is 6 and a little girl who is 2. I love those kids. Anyway, we got there and went to our favorite Christian bookstore and headed to the mall. 

Well, we didn't get started actually shopping until an hour and a half after we got there! Both of our girls had to be changed, fed, and then changed again. Fun times!! It didn't go exactly like we planned, but honestly, it was a fun time. It taught me a lot about expectations.

So Sunday was our anniversary. It's been 10 years since K and  I got married. I had high expectations for our 10 year anniversary. I mean, we made it to 10 years!! Not that I didn't think we would...God is so good to us. It's because of Him that we have. But I wanted to go somewhere nice. We planned to go out of town the week before our anniversary, but we were going to take Remy with us. Well, the weather was supposed to be yucky and we woke up the morning we were going to leave and had to take Remy to urgent care for a deep cough and yucky nose. Going out of town didn't happen. So Sunday the day of our anniversary we ate lunch with family and spent the day at K's mom and dad's so they could spend time with Remy. And you know what? It was a great day. We finished it off with ice cream. 

So here's what I am learning about expectations in marriage with a baby:

  1. Poop happens. Expect it to delay things. And it's ok. 
  2. Plans don't have to be elaborate in order to have a romantic evening or even just a nice day together. It's the time you do get to spend together that counts.
  3. Date nights may consist of the baby falling asleep a little early on you and you getting to watch half a movie. 
  4. Or a movie may take 4 hours to get through with stopping and pausing in between feedings and diapers and playing. And it's ok. To quote one of my favorite movies: "Make each day count." 
Until next time, make today great!

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