Tuesday, March 29, 2016

A Good Clean Romance: A Soldier's Promise by Laura Scott

It's getting kind of ridiculous how many books I am reading right now. Not that I am complaining, it's just I have to be realistic to how many I can really read at one time. I read one fiction book, one marriage book, one non-fiction Christian book, and a regular non fiction. There are so many choices and such little time that I read one chapter of each. And now I also read on the treadmill since there is the nifty Kindle app that connects with my kindle so I can read on my phone while I am walking. Ah, technology these days.

While walking on the treadmill I discovered this free ebook:

I don't normally read books out of sequence...but I didn't realize that this is a part of a series until halfway through it. Even though this was book two, I didn't feel like I was missing anything from the first. 

I am continuing my quest to find good, clean romances and this one definitely met my criteria. This book finds ER nurse Julie taking care of a former soldier and his daughter after they are brought in from a terrible accident. When she learns they don't have anywhere to go, she fights her instincts to stay out of it and takes Derek and his daughter, Lexi, in while he recovers from his injuries. Julie has been burned before but her good heart and Christian virtues overrule her head. Little does she know, Derek has secrets of his own that he is hiding from Julie.

I really enjoyed this book. The author's writing style hooked me from the beginning and it made walking on the treadmill pass by very quickly. I liked the main characters, Julie and Derek, and found myself really rooting for Derek despite his secrets. The author is great at description, but sometimes I found her details to be monotonous and a bit boring. But, the story and plot kept me hooked enough not to stay bored for long. As for being clean, it didn't have any foul language or intimate scenes that had too much detail. 

I loved the message of this book: to trust God to direct your path and that no matter what you have done, He loves you and has not forgotten you. There was also a theme of accepting children for who they are, and not make them into something you want them to be, which I found was subtle but effective. I would definitely suggest this book to other romance readers out there (especially if you are looking for something clean and mysterious.)

What are you reading right now?

Until next time, have a great day!

Monday, March 21, 2016

5 Habits We Avoid in Our Marriage

K and I's 8th wedding anniversary is Friday. We have had 8 wonderful years. He is my best friend; God has truly blessed me with an amazing man. Usually for our anniversary we will go out of town, but this time we are indulging in being nerds and going see a movie we are highly excited about: Batman Vs. Superman. We are complete super hero nerds...We watch The Flash, Agents of Shield, Arrow. We love the Marvel movies. I love that we share this obsession. Personally, I am rooting for Superman, but we'll see!

I have posted before about what makes our marriage great and what works for us. I started thinking about some things we don't do that also keeps our marriage strong. So I thought for this post I will talk about what we don't do: 5 things we avoid to keep our marriage strong:

  1. I will never post anything on social media degrading or negative about K. He trusts me with his reputation and trust in our marriage is so important. I don't want anyone thinking badly of him and I respect him. For these reasons I won't bad mouth him.
  2. We don't run to others when we have issues. Our issues are just that...our issues. I don't expect anyone else to handle them and if there is something I can't handle, I go to the Lord with it. Then we address it. 
  3. We never call each other names when we are disagreeing...and we don't curse at each other. Don't get me wrong, we get mad. We argue; sometimes it gets pretty heated. But name calling and cursing are not allowed. It's a rule. 
  4. We don't do everything together. Wait, what?? Yep, we do allow each other sometime apart aside from work time. I love to scrapbook and read, which you regular readers know; he loves to play video games. We allow each other time to ourselves when we need it. Trust me, it's healthy as long as it's not constant.
  5. We don't hide things from each other. We share everything together: our day, our plans, our finances, our purchases...everything. It's one of the many perks of being married. You have this one person that you can share everything with for the rest of your life. I take advantage of it!
There you have it! These are 5 things that we avoid to keep us connected and strong!

Until next time, have a great day!

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Completely Eye Opening

It's been a long time since a book actually made me feel convicted and made me question how I handle things.  Not that this is a bad thing...or a bad book; on the contrary...it was a great book. I absolutely loved it. But it was convicting for me.

I finished it the other night. I have grown to love my mission to find good marriage books to share with you guys. For one, it gets me reading marriage books and I pick up lots of interesting tips. 

This book was no different. The one thing that was so refreshing about this one was unlike most of the marriage books I have read so far, it was not a step by step on what you should do and not do. The author takes you with her on her journey of this experiment to discover what exactly it means to be a submissive wife. When she doesn't understand something or struggles with her role as a helper, she expresses it to the reader. I loved this writing style. It made it so much more personal.

As I was reading this book, I started making a list of what I was struggling with as a wife. How was I submissive to K? I am going to share with you some of what I jotted down...

  1. Do I let K lead or do I nag? 
  2. I struggle with making decisions before talking to him first
  3. Do I make sure I show K kindness in the home responsibilities or do I show resentment when I do housework? Which I have to comment on something she said that really resonated with me...for us wives that take on the role of the home life falling on us because our husbands work all day. Becoming their wives put us into the roles of being their helpers. Let's take joy and pride in being able to provide a comfortable and relaxing home for them to come home to. And let us not be afraid to ask for help from them when we feel overwhelmed or we have taken on too much. They are here to help us too.
  4. Do I follow Ephesians 5:24 to support K in the way I support Christ?
  5. Using her acronym for loving HIS way...practice loving K in HIS way (with Honor, Intention, and Selflessness)
As I said...it was very convicting and opened my eyes to somethings I need to work on. And I am committed to working on them because he means the world to me and deserves the best of me. (Like last night...our niece will be coming spend the weekend with us this weekend and even though it involves her and me mostly, I asked his opinion and help on a few decisions)

There are a couple things I am not sure about that she struggled with too. Like waiting on him...for example: fixing his plate. I don't fix his plate and never have. My attitude about this is I don't know how much he wants to eat. Do you think this is silly and a bit much? I also struggle with being pushy about K's spirituality and apparently the author did to. She told of a story about a devotional she bought for the family to do together and her husband's reaction to it. I have done the same thing. But we are not their Holy Spirit. Our job is to pray for them and let God handle their heart. 

And lastly, her idea about a 20 second hug is brilliant!! The author and her husband can call for a hug at anytime during an argument etc. And they have to hug for at least 20 seconds. They cannot refuse. And she said she almost always feels the anger melt away. I want to start practicing this.

So all in all, I loved this book and I can't wait to read her other book My so called life as a Proverbs 31 wife. Thanks for reading!

Until next time, have a great day!