Posts

Showing posts from 2015

5 Easy Ways to Stay Connected Through the Holidays

Image
Hi!! I promise I am still around! How was your Thanksgiving? Ours was wonderful. It was the first year in a while that we hosted and had his parents and my family over and it was great. There was one simple rule: you had to bring something. We played UNO and had lots of laughs and watched our nephews play together. Then after we did our annual Black Friday shopping. Can I brag a little? Well, not only do we have all of our little nieces and nephews Christmas shopping done (there are 9!!) but we got some awesome toys half off!! We LOVE Black Friday shopping. After the busyness, we had 2 wonderfully laid back days where we spent a lot of time together. It was amazing.

Because of the busyness of Thanksgiving, I was inspired to share some tips of how to keep your connection during the Christmas season from disappearing. Here are 5 simple ways to stay connected:


1) Have a Christmas movie night- I am stealing this idea from my sister and expanding on it. Starting December 1st, she plans to …

Not your typical love story...

Image
I've mentioned to you that I am an avid reader. I was so skeptical of getting a kindle, but I have to say it has been one of my favorite purchases ever. I LOVE my kindle. One of the perks of a kindle is free books. I have been stocking up on free books lately and since I recently finished a children's book series, I dove into one of the free books last week.

One of my challenges to myself for this blog was to find good marriage books and I increased that challenge to good romances. So this is what I started with:


The book opens introducing us to a man who is unhappy with his life. During a trip to his hometown, the main character runs into an old love. We learn that this was "the one". Flashback to the 1970's when times were different and Shawn literally falls for the girl next door: Dawn Adele. At first what seems to be a brother/sister relationship blossoms into young love. Because of their age difference, (Shawn was 4 years older) her parents tried to keep a t…

The Dangers of Romance Novels

I completely forgot I was supposed to review romance novels and movies from time to time. It completely slipped my mind. With reviewing marriage books already, I forgot about it. Unfortunately, I haven't read a romance novel in a while or seen a chick flick. I promise to get back to this idea, I will make it a point to review a book or movie once or twice a month. It will be fun. But...I felt the need to share my thoughts with you on the subject. Again...

I read this wonderful blog post about lies romance movies tell us, and she was so right! I had to comment right along with her. I love a good romance...they have a feel good feeling and you always root for the heroine and hero to end up together. There are always obstacles standing in their way, and most of the time they fight the odds and end up together. I have to admit, it feels good when we read how they fall together and end with a happy kiss. 
Here's the danger of romance novels and what they don't address and what …

Show Your Husband Some Love

Image
There are so many ways I show K that I love him. Cooking his favorite meal, spending time with him, doing something he wants to do...watching the entire Star Wars collection because of the new movie being released in December. There are many ways...


This book by Lisa Jacobson gave me more great ideas to show K that I love him. I really enjoyed reading this book. It was a very quick read as she lists each way on separate pages with a brief reason. Here are some of the ways that stood out to me and some I need to work on:
Welcome him home (12)- When our husbands come home, we want them to feel welcomed and loved. This is their safe haven from a day full of hard work and stress. I wish I could say this is something I have practiced since the beginning, but hey, I am still learning. And I am working on it. So when K comes home, I greet him with a smile and a kiss. Pray for him (16)- I love how she says that he needs a praying wife and to ask for protection. Who better to protect him than o…

A Much Needed Vacation

Image
K and I love the Pigeon Forge/Gatlinburg TN area. It is where we got married, honeymooned (2008), and returned in 2009, 2013, and now 2015. Every trip we have made a different adventure. This time was definitely no exception. We did a few things that I thought we would never do...considering we are very indoorsy people (I think I just made up a new word.)

But, before I get into our fun adventure, I have to say this: I strongly urge couples to take a vacation together...ALONE. I know many of you have kids and I understand the want to be close to them. But I think it's so vital to a marriage to even just take a couple of days to get away together. Something to get away from your everyday life and routine in order to reconnect as a couple. No responsibilities or big decisions except where you will get some tasty food. It is amazing what a little trip away together will do for not only yourself, but for your marriage. It's not that troubles disappear or responsibilities aren't…

Embrace the Differences...

Image
I think my brain is taking a vacation. It's possible that it's because in 4 days, K and I will finally be taking a much needed vacation. He told me last night if we could, he would have the car packed and ready to go and we would already be on our way...but of course there are things to finish this week like work.



We try to take a vacation once a year. Last year with so much going on, it didn't happen. So we were determined to go somewhere this year. Many things cropped up, but we are leaving for our favorite place, Gatlinburg TN, on Saturday!!  This will be our third time going and each time we have made a different trip. This time we will be riding ATV's, going to a cave, and even may try zip lining! I will definitely have a post about it with pictures!

Until then, I still need something to blog about so I thought I would post some interesting differences about K and me. We have a lot in common and enjoy spending time together and doing fun things together. We both h…

Another One Bites the Dust

Image
I grew up on their music. I was in grade school and Glycerine was a song I listened to daily and in high school No Doubt was a band I loved to crank really loud during the 90's. So when I found out the lead singers of my favorite bands, Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale, were married, I knew they would be rock solid (see what I did there?). 20 years later, (has it really been 20 years since we experienced the Spice Girls, Saved by the Bell, Rugrats, and Clueless?  AS IF!!) I have a wide variety of music interests and that includes country music. I love to listen to country and know plenty of the old and current artists.

I have been very disappointed with entertainment news lately. First it was Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert who called it quits after 4 years of marriage. Especially after they had said divorce was never an option. Then this morning I turn on the television to find out that Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale are getting a divorce after 20+ years, along with Reba McInti…

How To Fight Fair...Even When You Don't Want To

Image
I can be very moody. Seriously, just ask K. All he has to do is say one thing, and I snap at him. Then I see the look on his face after I snap and I feel horrible. Because it was so unnecessary. He didn't deserve my moody response. Just because the universe isn't turning like I think it should, I shouldn't take it out on him. But, I do anyway. And what does he do? He forgives me. Every time. He still loves me despite the moods and testy attitudes.

All of this came to light while I studied Song of Solomon this morning. With such pretty words, you wouldn't think that this book would tackle conflict, but it does. In Chapter 5, Solomon returns home to be with his beloved bride.

"Open to me, my treasure, my darling, my dove, my perfect one. My head is drenched with dew,  my hair with dampness of the night." (Song of Solomon, 5:2)
In this chapter, some time has passed since their wedding and their marriage has lost some of that spark that was originally there. We know …

The Ultimate Marriage Vow...

Image
I love to read. I know I have mentioned that before...but I want you to understand how deep that love for reading goes.
It started in 1st grade. There was this program called "SRA" and it was to encourage recreational reading as well as our development in learning to read. The minute I picked out my first book, I was hooked. I wanted to learn how to read so I could read every book I could get my hands on. I quickly learned that I don't just read...I am in the book. In elementary school, I was a part of the babysitter's club, I went through all the horrors in the Goosebumps series, and I was a Sweet Valley girl. (Does anyone remember the Sweet Valley Twins?  I read all the junior books!)


When I hit high school, I was teased for reading so much, but instead of it bothering me; I became rebellious. I read all the time and I made sure they saw me reading. Fear Street was my favorite series. I majored in English in college so I could study literature. (I'll be honest,…

It's not a bad word...

Image
I didn't realize how hard this post would be for me. I have been sitting here trying to get it together for about a week now. It's a topic that is very important to me and our marriage. After I read and studied my chapter in Song of Solomon, I felt God was telling me I was ready to talk about it. But, it was finding the words to do it.  It is something that is completely lost to our society and hard for us to follow as wives.

Submission.
The definition of submission from Merriam-Webster: 2) the condition of being submissive, humble, compliant  3) an act of submitting to the authority or control of another
We are taught in today's day and age that submission is a bad word. It is a belief that is long lost and forgotten. But submission is a teaching from the bible; a teaching from God. As wives we are to submit to our husbands as we would to the Lord.

The Bible's definition of submission: 

When I say submission, there are many ways I submit to K. And let me say that I don…

Seeking God Together through Rough Times

Image
Life is starting to get back to some normalcy. This has been a rough year.

I hope this doesn't sound like complaining, because I'm not. I just want you to understand that K and I aren't perfect. Even though we have a happy marriage, we hit bumps, hurdles, sometimes pot holes that swallow us. The main point of this is how we make it through it. Like the country song says, "every storm runs out of rain".

It started last Sept with a death in my family.. Shortly after, I started with chronic back pain that kept me out of work for a month. (Which I am still and apparently always will deal with it.) Fast forwarding through the year, we went through changes with K's job (involved many late nights), my grandma's knee surgery (and recovery with us), and two huge car repairs we were not expecting. There were days and nights we were beyond drained and exhausted.

Enough of the depressing stuff, right? Here's the bright side...there are two big things that happene…

I have Two Love Languages?

Image
I love to reread books. Being an avid reader, I want to read as many books as I can. This year, I increased my goal to read 22 books. I have read 12 so far. Rereading a book counts for me. Sometimes I catch something that I didn't the first time I read it or my opinion is a bit different. I also remember why I loved the book so much.



Rereading The Five Love Languages so I could post a review for it was fun. I loved revisiting this book. I read it back in 2010; two years after K and I were married. I loved Gary Chapman's idea of love languages and how each person has one. His idea is that you want love displayed in your particular language:



First I want to address his idea of "being in love" vs. "real love". I really think he is onto something here. When you fall in love, you can't control your feelings. You constantly think about the person; want to always be with them...they are always on your mind. You don't see their flaws or the mistakes they mak…

I feel pretty...

Image
I have mentioned several times that I love Sheila Wray Gregoire's blog, To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. I have learned so much from her and have gotten some great marriage tips and ideas for this blog. In fact, I may even sound like a broken record. But you should check out her blog. It's really amazing. I don't always agree with everything she says, but I don't expect you to always agree with me either. :) Well, I have been inspired yet again by her. And this time I am challenging myself. She posted a blog titled Fighting the Frump. It definitely hit me at the right time. Lately, I have been wearing frumpy shorts and old t-shirts and no makeup. It was the easiest and most comfortable and I had just really focused on taking care of my grandma and didn't care. After reading her post, I realized I need to care. I had lost respect for myself and what I looked like. It wasn't fair to me or to K. He doesn't say anything...he even tells me I don't need makeup. Bu…

A Lesson in Communication

Image
Have you ever read the book the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman?

I plan to reread it and post a review on here...I love this book. It not only taught me about myself, but it taught me a lot about how a man thinks and what they want from their wife in terms of love. My love language is words of affirmation, which means I love above everything else words of encouragement, compliments, a simple thank you. I love when K tells me that I smell nice or he likes how I look. I struggle with my image and compliments lift my spirits and I want to know that he appreciates what he sees. I like looking nice for him. Sometimes he struggles with the compliments and I have to remind him how important it is to me, but he never fails to thank me for something I have done for him. Even if it is something small like fixing his lunch in the morning. That will set my day just right. 


The reason I wanted to talk about this today is because this morning I spent sometime with God and studied the second ch…

What Will You Choose?

Image
After reading a post by Sheila Wray Gregoire about daddy issues and  a conversation I had this morning...this post sparked in my head and I prayed about it. My first post explained why I wanted to do this blog, but it went deeper than that and now I feel it's a good time to elaborate on it.

Marriage wasn't an easy topic for me. My parents divorced when I was 2 and both remarried. I also saw divorce in other areas of the family and wondered if it was going to be possible for me to have a happy marriage. I even went through a brief period before K and I got married where I was scared to get married. I didn't want to fall into another failed marriage listed in my family. I wondered if I could really do this?? 
I had one serious boyfriend before K and I thought I was in love with him. But, I knew in my heart he wasn't the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. After we broke up, I had in my mind what kind of man I wanted to date. God blessed me with K even when I …

Cha-Cha-Cha-Changes

Image
Are you a creature of habit? Do you like routine? Do you work better with a schedule? All of the above applies to K and me. We thrive off of routine, habit, and schedules. I've even posted about our habits before. But, this week we are experiencing change. And it has made me realize how important it is to lean on each other.

My grandma had knee surgery Monday. And now that she is recovering, she is staying with us. She is doing well with it, but it is very demanding on her. She has a lot to do with physical therapy, so I stay busy being her nurse.

I think it is very important during a season of change to lean on each other and not forget you are married. K has been very helpful picking up anything if I need him to, and just being available if I need something. But it has to go deeper than that. I am taking time to myself. Like right now, she is napping, so I am doing a few things I love (like posting this blog.) I read, check email, catch up on housework, check pinterest. As a co…

A Fun New Adventure

Image
K and I aren't very adventurous. We are creatures of habit; change doesn't sit very well with us. These last few weeks have been full of change. K has had to work long hours and we haven't seen much of each other lately, plus we are preparing for my grandma to stay with us while she recovers from surgery.

So I wanted to spend Memorial weekend with K since he didn't have to work, and I tried to think of a fun date. Something different, but that we would both enjoy. When we get away, we always go to Baton Rouge to shop at the Mall of Louisiana. I started looking on Pinterest for ideas for dates and came across an idea for a bookstore scavenger hunt. Of course, I was beyond interested. I love books; reading is one of my favorite hobbies. Libraries and bookstores are my safe haven. I came up with 20 ideas and a point system in order to convince K this would be fun. We can be quite competitive. The ideas included: a book you loved in high school, a book made into a movie yo…