Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Some of my favorite things...



Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! K and I are still experiencing firsts. For the first time in 15 Christmases, we were home alone on Christmas day. The holiday season is always jammed packed for us trying to get to different families houses...well the night before my birthday I started with chills, fever, achyness, the works. So on my birthday (the 22nd) I went to the doctor to see what was going on. I felt horrible. And I had the flu. K came home that night feeling horrible as well, and ended up with the flu also. So for Christmas, we stayed home exchanged a few presents and watched movies all day. I think God was trying to tell us to slow down. I love my family and spending time with them, but I have to say that the change of pace was nice. We have since started feeling much better and celebrated my birthday and Christmas several times with different family members, but last week being able to slow down and just enjoy each other's company was very nice.




Do you remember Myspace? I used myspace a lot and liked being able to personalize my page. They used to have tons of favorite lists to fill out in the news feed. I loved those things.


My sister has two wonderful blogs: Beauty on a budget and The Finding Me Project. You should definitely check them out! After reading her latest blog on her favorite things, I thought it would be an interesting post for you to have some insight into who I am and some of my favorite things...





1. Favorite pet I ever had: The only pet I ever had was Patches, my mom's dog. I guess she is my favorite. She only loves me when K is around. She used to sleep with me though when I lived at home


2. Favorite car I've owned: K's Hyundai Elantra. Can't wait until we can trade my Nissan in and that car is mine :)


3. Favorite meal out, ever: When K proposed to me at an Italian Restaurant in town. It was so sweet and he was so nervous!


4. Favorite food I've cooked: I love to cook spaghetti and chili


5. Favorite food from childhood: My dad's nachos


6. Favorite drink on a hot summer day: Iced tea


7. Favorite drink on a cold winter night: Hot chocolate


8. Favorite conversation I've ever had with a person: I really don't have a favorite. But K is always funny to talk to


9. Favorite movie of all time: I don't have just one. The Notebook, The Princess Bride, The Lord of the Rings Trilogy, Underworld...names a few


10. Favorite book of all time: Again...can't pick just one. The Hunger Games (Suzanne Collins), Dead Until Dark (Charlaine Harris), the Harry Potter series (J.K.Rowling) just to name a few


11. Teacher who changed my life, and why: I had two very influential teachers. My 7th grade teacher, Mr. Abbott, helped me find my love for acting. He encouraged me to get involved in drama and to this day I wish I would have stuck with it. Also, I had the same English teacher for 8th, 11th, and 12th grade. She started teaching my 8th grade year and helped my love for English.


12. Professional mentor who changed my life, and why: Two people again. K is a very professional person and I admire his work ethics and how he started from the bottom at the bank and worked his way up. I am so proud of him. I also look up to my grandma for her professional leadership. She was a nurse for 25 years and knew that was what God wanted her to do. I admire her for the hard work and determination she displayed to achieve it


13. Favorite color: I have always loved purple since I was a kid


14. Favorite song: Love Like Crazy by Lee Brice and Chicken Fried by Zac Brown Band


15. The best paid entertainment I've ever seen: K will be so proud for this one. In 2004 I surprised him with tickets to see his fave band, Metallica. That was the best concert I have ever been to.


16. Favorite hobby activity that makes me get lost for hours: Scrapbooking


17. The most fun road trip I ever took... where and with whom: The last vacation K and I took to TN was amazing. We had so much fun...it was so relaxed and it is long overdue that we do that again.


18. My favorite flower - purchased: Fire and Ice Roses


19. The most treasured book in my library: My bible my grandma has given me


20. The most important tool in my craft/ hobby stuff: My Cricut


21. The coolest handmade gift I ever gave anyone: my photo calendars


22. The most healthy and vital time in my life was/is? For the past 2 years I have kept off almost 45 pounds


23. Song that makes me move no matter how bad I feel? Light Em Up by Fall Out Boy


24. My favorite patriotic experience? This was an experience I will never forget. K, my mom, and I went to San Antonio to see my brother graduate from the Dental Clinic at Fort Sam Houston. We went to church with him and seeing hundreds of soldiers dressed in their uniforms worshiping God...was a sight I will never forget.


25. My one favorite item of clothing? I am a big t-shirt person. I have a couple favorite t-shirts I love to wear


26. The one item I would take to the desert island? a cell phone


Friday, December 12, 2014

What works for us...

I teach 2 year old children at a church in a little program known as "Children's day out". Everyday I usually come home with a couple interesting stories to tell K. This week I got the idea for this post from them. Everyday we try to stick to a routine for them...kids thrive on routine. Before lunch we always take them outside and around the church for a walk to work off some of their energy. When we enter back into the classroom, they are supposed to sit on our little rug while we put out their lunches. Well, one day we wanted to do things differently. We wanted to practice a new song we were teaching them. So when we entered the class we told them to line up against the wall. They went straight to the rug and sat down. (Well, most of them. We have a few that run around...they are 2) It made us laugh at how one minor detail didn't compute to them. And it made me realize we are creatures of habit, but it works.

K and I have habits, rituals, and traditions that make our marriage great. Things we make it a point to do that mean a lot to us and make our marriage special. Please feel free to try some of these and tell me what your rituals or traditions are.

1) We eat supper together: This was very important to both of us. We started this very early in our marriage that we would sit at the table for supper time and eat together. Even if he works late, I will eat a snack and wait to eat supper with him. It gives us a chance to relax together and catch up on our day.

2) Bedtime: We try our hardest to go to bed at the same time. Very rarely we don't. I know this is hard for those who work different hours, but this is so important for a married couple. K and I have some of our best conversations before we go to bed. The intimacy of going to bed together is not only about the obvious reasons, but also about the connection shared.

3) We text each other during the day when we are a part: I will admit I had to work at this one with K. Sometimes he would get very busy at work and I wouldn't hear from him all day. After we talked about it, we text each other to say hi or to tell each other something every day. Texting makes it so easy to just let them know, hey, I am thinking about you and I love you. Even if they can't respond right away, they can when it's convenient. 

4) At supper time, we pray- Well anytime we sit down to eat together we pray together. We also are trying to get better about setting one night a week to do a bible study or devotional together.

5) Hugs and kisses- K is a very affectionate person. That is something that is important to him. So every evening when he gets home, he hugs me and gives me a kiss. We also do this before bedtime. It's amazing how that hug and kiss can make whatever kind of day I have had get better. I look forward to it everyday.

6) Date nights- We try to have a date night every week. With the craziness of the holiday season, it doesn't always happen, but we try very hard to spend an evening doing something we love together, even if it's just watching movies in our pj's.

Traditions...and New Traditions:

1) My Birthday: On my birthday for the last few years, we have gone to the movies and ate at a restaurant together. I love this time we spend together. It's something we can do for a date, but the treat on my birthday makes it very special.

2) New Year's eve: I know you can understand how crazy the holidays get...so on New Year's eve, K and I try very hard to spend this night at home together alone. It doesn't happen every year, but we are pushing for it this year. Sometimes you need one holiday to yourselves to regroup and settle down after all the busyness.

3) Christmas presents: We are bringing something back this year. When K and I started dating, we had traditions of exchanging presents. When we got married, we started shopping together and just picked out what we wanted for Christmas and stopped exchanging. After talking to my co-workers about it, I realized how much I missed it. So we decided to set a limit and get a couple stocking stuffers to exchange on Christmas this year. I already have K's wrapped and in his stocking :)

I hope this gives you an insight into K and I's rituals and traditions. What are some traditions you do as a couple?  Try something new this Christmas season. That's what makes marriage fun!






Monday, December 1, 2014

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Well, hello! How was your Thanksgiving? This year my family did things a little different. For the past 6 years, K and I hosted thanksgiving. But this year has been busy...stressful and painful. So we asked the family to go to Golden Coral for lunch. And it was good and relaxed. K and I enjoyed it. After, we did our annual black Friday shopping...started at 6 and ended at 1 am! Yes...I did say we. K actually started the tradition when we were dating; he would shop for me. When we got married, i joined him. We get all our nieces and nephews Christmas presents and we love it. It's fun. I am very blessed that he doesn't mind doing this. It's a tradition we love together.
So let's talk about respect. K and I were at a friend's get together one day and the husbands were talking in one area and the wives in another. It wasn't long before one friend started talking about her husband, saying very belittling and degrading comments about things he didn't do. It was a domino effect before the wives joined in and started saying all the things their husbands didn't do. We can show our husbands respect in many ways and this my readers, is not one of them.
Our husbands (significant others) need our respect. It is one of their biggest needs as a man. They need to trust that when we are in the company of our friends and family that we will talk lovingly and respectfully about them. Even at times when you maybe upset. That brings a point about family...I think it is important to have a family member or friend you can go to for advice about your relationship if there is something you can't handle together. Or someone you can talk to that is objective to your love life. We all need someone we can trust to help us. Of course, the best person for this is Jesus. But, be careful how you "vent" about your loved one to family. They are the outsider and most of the time family won't forget what they did.

We can also show respect to our husbands by how we talk to them. Once when I was mad at K, I said something to him that was very mean. I can't remember now what it was...but I have never forgotten the look on his face. It was full of defeat and hurt. It hurt me that I put that look and I never wanted to do that again. I realized how much my words can tear him down and I don't want to do that. He deserves better from me. Now I know there are situations out there that you may say, but you don't know how much my husband disrespects me...how can I show him respect? I pray for you out there that are struggling. My advice is to try. Each day try doing something nice and tell him something nice. Keep doing this everyday. The next time you are around someone bashing their husband, don't join in. It's not an overnight fix, but I will pray that a change of attitude will help.
Lastly...praise your husband or loved one. Let them know how much you appreciate all they do. Our very important job as their wives is to build their ego. This is huge, my friends. Our husbands need to hear how proud we are of them and how much we appreciate what they do for us.