When K and I bought our house we currently live in 3 years ago, I was so excited to decorate and buy new furniture. K had different feelings...he felt what we had was enough and didn't want to spend a bunch of money on decorations. We had many arguments on where certain things should go and what should or shouldn't be bought. After many fights, I finally sat him down and told him this was ridiculous. We had to stop it and come to a compromise. It was so stupid that we were spending such an exciting time fighting over where something should go. We still have had some stupid fights since then, but just the fact that I sat him down and didn't fight with him or nag him made such a difference. My first tip would be to learn the art of compromise. This has saved K and I from some serious fights. This also goes along with learning to pick your battles. The other day I got mad at K for something so stupid (it was about buying wooden spoons for my nephew, who loves playing with cooking spoons. After being very upset with K and I sat there pouting, I thought this is one of the most stupid disagreements! It actually inspired this post!) If it's a serious issue and needs to be addressed, then talk to him and find a common ground. But, if it's over something stupid...laugh and walk over to them and give them a hug. That will stop a fight dead in it's tracks. Laughter truly is the best medicine. The next time you and your significant other is fighting, seriously think and ask yourself if it is really worth fighting over?
Be the first to say your sorry even if you don't want to. This will change the tone of the argument and will help them not be afraid to say they are sorry. And one final tip that has helped K and I tremendously...let go of your anger. Don't be mad at each other for long...I know couples who have stayed mad at each other over things for years and something that happened long ago...let it go. Forgive them and move on. It sounds cliche, but life really is too short to hold on to something. You learn from it and move on. If it is something they keep doing, address what it is and let them know it bothers you. Open the lines of communication. K and I have a very happy marriage because we talk to each other and we remember to have fun together. We laugh when we do something stupid and we forgive each other. We pick our battles. There are somethings he does that drives me bananas and vice versa, but we are in this together and love each other. That is more important.