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Compromise and say you're sorry...

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I have been asked if K and I have problems...if we fight. At first, I was kind of surprised by the question and have responded that we are like every normal couple. We argue...we have issues. Both of us are very stubborn and have different ways of handling problems. But in some ways, we don't handle our conflicts normally, and that is when I realized we are different. And I came to the conclusion that is why we are happy and have fun together, and it may seem like we don't argue. I want to share with you what works for us and I hope it helps you.

When K and I bought our house we currently live in 3 years ago, I was so excited to decorate and buy new furniture. K had different feelings...he felt what we had was enough and didn't want to spend a bunch of money on decorations. We had many arguments on where certain things should go and what should or shouldn't be bought. After many fights, I finally sat him down and told him this was ridiculous. We had to stop it and come…

Real love VS Hollywood romance

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I love Sheila Wray Gregoire's blog, To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, which is also about marriage. I get lots of great Christian marriage advice and ideas from her. She also has some great books I want to read and isn't afraid to tackle rough topics and some that are considered taboo (sex, porn, etc).
I came across a blog post from her about the 50 most romantic movies from her Facebook readers and it gave me a great idea...I wanted to express my opinion about the difference with Hollywood's depiction of love and what real love should be.

Don't get me wrong...I am a sucker for a good romance. I have read every Nicholas Sparks book and I love a good cheesy romantic chick flick. But...Hollywood has it so wrong. Most of the classic love stories are about a guy and girl who meet and only after first seeing each other...they fall head over heels in love. Then there is a major conflict like a previous love, dark past, bad childhood, parents, that prevents them from being together…

Good times and bad...

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I can honestly say that this past week and a half has been one of the hardest weeks my family has ever been through. As a married couple, it has also been one of the hardest years we have been through. We lost 2 of K's uncles within 2 weeks of each other early this year, plus K's surgery, and this week my step-dad passed away. Death is hard to deal with but this was the first time it was this close to our family. I have a young family. It's really hard to know how to deal with it.

But...I am one of five siblings and we all rallied together and pulled together to support my mom.

I think one of the most important things as a couple that we did was we relied on each other. Instead of giving in to the stress and being completely overloaded, K and I are leaning on each other and it has helped me so much. We are getting through it and helping my family make it through. I am one who lashes out at others, but I didn't. I think I talked about this before in my firsts post...but…