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The answer is...No

I have been asked a certain question that I have had to use that answer so many times. At family weddings, funerals, get togethers...and the answer has remained the same. K and I don't have children. By choice. I know...with that being said, those of you who have children are probably thinking "oh it's easy for you to say you can have a happy marriage. You don't have kids". I've heard it. Although I may not have experienced the struggles you go through when you have children and what it does to a marriage...I have seen it. I have 5 nephews and 3 nieces and have witnessed what can happen. Please understand I am not saying children bring horror to a marriage or are bad for it. But, I am sure that those of you who are married with kids would agree with me when I say that they change a marriage.  I am not saying good or bad...it just changes the way things were from before. Let me quickly say I love children. They are the sweetest of blessings. K and I spoil our n…

Date Nights Part 2

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I knew I would spend time on a few posts about dating because like I have said before, it is so crucial to a marriage. The misconception is now that you are married and you are together, the dating stops.  It should never stop!  Dating helps keep that fire lit and it also helps you have fun together and remember why you love each other.  This post will focus on fun ideas to do together while being reasonably cheap.  Give them a try!  I am going to challenge K and I to also try them. 

Before I get into the ideas, I promised I would have the story of K and I's first kiss. (it's really fun to travel down memory lane...on a night when there isn't anything on T.V...pull out your wedding album or old pictures of the two of you and laugh at how much you have changed!).

K had asked me to his prom and his military ball (he was in the JROTC at his high school).  The prom was first and on April 1, 2000 I wore a very pretty light blue sequenced dress, rode in a black limo with anoth…

Technology these days...

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I tried an experiment on Saturday that half worked and I think I will be trying again.  I am too connected. Do you ever feel that way?  I misplace my cell phone sometimes and think what did I do 10 years ago before cell phones became such a necessity?  I spend a lot of time on my phone.  Whether it's checking email, facebook, or pinterest, responding to texts, answering phone calls...it's always right there by me.

Since K and I were going to spend Saturday together, I was going to try something. I have noticed that when we are watching T.V. together or out together, I will use my phone. I have gotten better about it, but it's still always there to distract me. So, Saturday morning I turned it on silent and kept it in my room with occasionally checking it to make sure no one had called or texted.  The experiment was to stay off it completely.  Well, I was able to stay completely off anything social media. And I think I will do this more often!  There was a lot of freedom to…

Date nights...

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Do you remember your first date with your significant other? Let's jump into a time machine and go back to Feb. 3, 2000. Well, before we get there we have to make a few stops. K and I were in our senior year of high school. He went to public school...I was in private. We met at our local grocery store and he bagged the groceries; I was the cashier. My first day on my first job...I was super nervous and didn't know anyone. This cute guy walks up to my register, starts bagging my groceries and introduces himself. I remember thinking...he's really cute. Of course, at the time I had a boyfriend. Who lived 6 hours away at college. I later found out from a fellow employee that K thought I had a beautiful smile. But...being the faithful girlfriend that I was (unlike the boyfriend I later learned) I became good friends with K. The kind of friend that would laugh and joke together and vent a little about the way the boyfriend treated me. All the while...K and I kept it platonic. Un…

In the beginning...

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I have been having it on my mind for a while now to start a marriage blog. I knew what that might mean...getting downright personal and blunt. Let me start by saying that I am a Christian and follow biblical principles. So that may turn some of you...ok...many of you away. And I have accepted that. But for those of you that stick around...I hope I help you. Marriages today are looked at as a joke. Our generation and the one following does not know what it means to work at a marriage...stick to it until "death do you part". Yes...that is a part of the vows. I mean...we have Kim Kardashian as a role model. Something is seriously wrong with our society.

So what do I hope to accomplish with this blog? To speak to you and tell you that there is hope. Marriages are not miserable or all fighting and struggles. You can be happy and have fun together.What do I have to back that up? After 8 years of dating and 6 years married, we are each other's best friends. We have our issues a…